Are you curious about bringing some extra warmth into your boudoir? Wax Play falls under the BDSM category of sexual practices. You can take if from soft and sensual all the way to the risky level of play. Whether you're curious about introducing this into a fun evening, it's important to get a little information on where to begin and as always consent from your partner.
1. Chose the Right Wax
Beeswax burns at and retains a higher temperature. This usually leads to burns. To begin experimenting with wax play, use candles that are specifically made for massage. These often stay at a body safe temperature. There is that component of wax play that is risky because we associate hot wax to pain. That thrill is often what sets some people off.
2. Prep Your Canvas
Hair and wax don't mix. If you or your partner want to play by dripping on each others bodies, either prepare the skin by removing the hair or stick to areas that don't have a lot of hair present. Also, don't forget to put down a sheet or towel that you're not worried about messing up.
3. Set the Scene
Prepare your space with the right materials. As with anything involving fire, remember safety first. Bring a lighter, remove anything that is highly flammable (save that lingerie for another day), and have a container of warm water nearby to tend to any burns or douse any flames. Set the ambience with some soft music and low lighting.
4. Set a Safe Word
While your wax is warming up, it's a good time to talk to your partner about what the safe word of the evening is going to be. You or them may decide in the middle that this just isn't working or maybe the pain is too much for you.
5. Slow & High
Start by dripping the wax slowly from a higher height from the body so that the wax has some time to cool before making contact with the skin. You may want to blow out the candle before you start pour as well so that if you have to put the candle down quickly it will not catch anything on fire.
6. Savor the After
The fun doesn't have to end once the wax runs out. You can play with the hard wax over your partner's skin. Slowly peel it off and kiss the spots underneath. Try to incorporate a blindfold while you use more wax. Let it play out into the next step whether it's cuddling, making out or raw, carnal fun.